Well This Is Just Awesome

Plenty of concurrence on the no-shame bit. And same response to your other secret, how did you end up getting in to the dead non-existent boyfriend scenario?

I’d say it was fairly high. And I know a fair few people who have used Craigslist/dating sites. It’s a bit of a generalisation but I’d say my queer friends tend to be more open when talking about sex stuff, and I know of more gays than straights who have met people off t’internets. I told a few of my friends. And no, I didn’t really regret it. Nothing bad came of it, nobody got hurt or anything. I reckon there are people out there who wouldn’t approve of what I did, but that’s their problem and not mine. The women were between my age and a couple of years older. And in both cases there was a sort of date first and a fair bit of email exchange before actually meeting them. I don’t mind the questions, although this has to be the most open I have been on Tumblr ever in terms of personal stuff…

I had a friend who met her girlfriend on Gumtree, so out of curiousity I put myself on there to see if I could meet someone. I was maybe 17 at the time. I met with three girls over the course of about a year and wound up sleeping with two of them. I hadn’t really intended it to be a casual sex thing but neither of them would have worked out in a proper relationship…so it ended up just being a casual sex thing. I’m not ashamed of it or anything. It’s just some thing I did once really :P

Why did you invent this person and why did they “die” in the end? I’m just interested.

Confession: I’ve done all of these things. In my opinion there is nowt wrong with having a high sex drive and neither is there anything wrong with having a low sex drive. And I don’t think there’s really any kinda correllation with gender identity and sex drive either…the whole girls don’t/shouldn’t want a lot of sex is just bollocks. Some do, some don’t, simples!

I read stuff I write back to myself and it just seems really repetitive and kinda boring. Maybe it’s classical self-criticsim and thank you for saying nice things about it! The social workers were from either charities like CLIC Sargent or working at the hospital itself and they helped my family a lot with things like applying for disability support (ongoing struggle, they’re telling me to live off my student loan and screw the fact that that’s putting me into even more debt than I’m already gonna be in), and dealing with all the other things that you suddenly have to sort out when you drop out of uni due to illness. It’s a lot of stuff, we have a fat ringbinder full of doctors notes and correspondence with the uni, student finance, disability support, student accomodation…list goes on. Then there was another guy from CLIC Sargent who’s job was to make my time in hospital a bit less unpleasant. He brought me stuff to read and films to watch and generally checked in with me every time I visited to see if I was okay. On my last visit he had a whole stack of hoodies donated by Firetrap so I even got a free hoodie! Also there were nurses who specialised in being someone who could answer questions about the treatment and about coping with all the symptoms and getting on with life and stuff.

I’m really happy that a) your tests are clear and b) you’ve got a diagnosis. That has to be reassuring and hopefully it will help you with dealing with the symptoms and such :) xx